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I am going to be very honest in this post. When I first thought about self-love I did indeed equate it with ego. As a mum and a teacher, I'm used to putting my needs behind others and I have no problem with this. So when I came across this quote, I was thankful that it gave me the inner peace to work on this week's in the Kindness Challenge (hosted by Niki - The Richness of a Simple Life - click on the button in the sidebar to be taken there).
So I took a good, long look at myself. Now, I have always struggled with my appearance. As someone not very tall, I think I look dumpy. I have a bust, I have hips and I have always wanted instead to have a sylph-like figure.
So for this week's Challenge I decided that I would stop comparing my body shape unfavourably to others and be kind to myself in this way. I would focus on how my cats "see" me - as in, they couldn't care less about my body shape - it is immaterial to them - they have no understanding of whether a person is fat or thin. My self-love was therefore to think "my body shape does not define the person I am".
This week's Challenge prompt was to realise "there's nothing you need to do to earn or deserve love from yourself or others" so I chose to think abut this every time I went in the kitchen and saw myself in our reflective kettle. The kitchen is where I have most of my "battles" - "food = fat" "this food is bad for me but I want it" etc etc so I tried to stop beating myself up over it and be kind to myself in this way.
This definitely spoke to me - I've always a bit of a rebel!
So what did I learn this week?
Well I think I learnt to accept myself physically a little more and be kinder towards my self-image. I'm supporting myself more rather than giving myself a good talking to! And actually this week it's been a whole heap easier to stay away from temptation. I've bought the more expensive fruit and veg that I'd buy for others but wouldn't normally buy for myself. I've left food on my plate if I didn't want it. I also said No a few times this week which is never easy for me but also gave me a little more space in my life so I didn't feel so exhausted running about everywhere and then grabbing something quick to eat which often isn't the best thing for me.
I'm not saying it's been easy this week but then it never is when you're learning new things but I'm definitely going to keep continuing in this vein.
My final quote comes from Dr. Wayne Dyer who said:
"If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change."